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About Marie Coppola

Marie Coppola A long-time human resources administrator and paralegal (B.S. in Business Administration/ Psychology, Certified Paralegal), Marie writes to aid employees with positive career options and resources, and to assist in career development solutions for students and employees; counsels on resumes, securing employment, and being successful with promotable possibilities. Marie finds inspiration in her faith, which she enjoys passing on to others, and finds gratification in helping others wherever she can. Got a question, need advice? Marie can be reached at mcopp@ymail.com

A visiting priest who is known for his wonderful homilies visited our church.  After he gave the homily, he requested that we didn't come up to him after mass and tell him how wonderful his homilies are but to pass his words on to others.  Here is his story retold in my words.

Recently, just before Christmas, this priest experienced passing some kidney stones that put him in the hospital for surgery.  While he was recuperating, a hospital volunteer came by with a sealed Christmas card for him.  As he put it, "She was older than Moses, and yet there she was close to holiday time, giving out Christmas cards to patients she did not know."  The priest placed the card on the table next to his bed without opening it.  A day or so later, he developed a fever and the only relief he felt, was to reach over to the table, pick up the enveloped card and fan himself with it.   He thought about the volunteer and how her action to be kind resulted in a reaction of gratitude and thanks from him.

He then spoke on how actions have reactions and sometimes, how no actions have reactions, too.   He asked us, "Have you done any actions lately that resulted in reactions?"

His homily on that Sunday was the celebration of the Epiphany (of the Lord).  The word 'epiphany' comes from the Greek word 'epiphainen, a verb that means "to shine upon"; "to manifest'"; or "to make known", and was connected to the visit of the Magi also known as the Three Wise Men.  It was a fulfillment of prophet Simeon's prophecy that Jesus would be a light of revelation to the Gentiles - to shine as the Light of the World.  The homily told a story of actions to reactions - the birth of Jesus, the visit of the Magi, the threat (action) of Herod to first-borns, and the flight (reaction) to Egypt to escape it.

We were asked again if we had done any actions recently that resulted in reactions.  He suggested we might imitate the volunteer who doesn't know that she is spoken of at every mass to many parishioners or that her action resulted in the reaction of comfort to an ailing patient.

What could we do to mirror her actons of giving and sharing?  Can we manufacture good reactions?  Can we forgive someone we are at odds with?  Could we send a letter of forgiveness to someone with whom we are angry and/or stopped talking to?

Could we make amends for some miscommunication or a bad attitude? Can we have our own 'epiphany' over some matter that we saw only our side on?  Can a 'light of revelation' be found in the actions of others and our reaction to them?  Can we cause a chain reaction of kindness through our actions?  We might gather balm for others as well as for ourselves if we see matters in another "Light".

Have you had an epiphany over anything lately?  Or about God?  If not, think about special feelings or events in your life and see if there is a revelation or ephiphany that you missed.

I recalled one as he spoke.  Once I had a dream in which God told me He was sending me a gift.  It was a very pleasant dream and shortly after, I received two gifts on the same day which could only be from God.  I wondered if one of them was the gift of my dream.   Off and on,  I wondered about this.

But which one was my 'dream gift'?  They were equally wonderful.   One day, much later, I had an epiphany.  They were both from God as are many other blessings He has bestowed upon me,  Everything He sends me is a gift.  And in His Wisdom, I felt He sent me two together and knew I would ponder and wonder about it.  It took awhile, but I got it.  All good things come frm God and all are His Gifts and I gve gratitude not just for one ~ but for all.

Actions have reactions.  And no actions have reactions.   Pass along an action that someone will react in happiness ~especially if it will be a surprise.  It will be balm for both of you.

I told the priest after mass that my reaction to his action of homily would be to create this article and pass on his words.  I also told him his homilies were wonderful.

{C} Marie Coppola January 2017

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It was a white day that year when I, at the tender age of seven, sat waiting expectantly for her to arrive --those wonderful white days when the snow has not yet fallen but the promise is there. At any moment you will see those crystal flakes and know that it is finally Christmas at last for what is Christmas without snow?

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Her arrival heralded Christmas in the same fashion, and finally she is there -- arms laden with bursting packages as she enters, embracing us and exclaiming. "Oh my, how you've grown!"  I felt that Santa himself could not have made a more dramatic entrance.   We tore open her seemingly never-ending supply of gifts as she watched us, her lauighter filling the room, and her joy was made complete in the simple mindfulness of our supreme happiness.

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We felt that way at Christmastime, but other times as well. It seemed as though the spirit of Christmas was around us even in the middle of summer.  As we walked into her kitchen, still warm from the baking ham, her table perpetually set for arriving guests, we felt almost heady from her constant attention and devotion from this woman we called grandmother.

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We took secret delight in her endless ministrations.   The food -- oh!  At every visit there was a feast, for that is how she showed her love.  Then, with the gifts -- gifts from the heart, for she knew each of us so well -- and once again Christmas was upon us with all of its magic and surprise, even in July.

Every year, every Christmas was the same, although after I married and moved away, I didn't see her as often as I would have wished.  Still, we celebrated whenever we could.  Those moments were treasured, for we knew that our time together on this earth was short.  She never gave in to the sickness that ravaged her body -- she was always there, hands serving her children, her grandchildren, and now, her great grandchild.  On her final visit, I saw in my son what I felt so long ago -- his eyes shining while she held him, swollen with the sickness, and told him stories and gave him candy kisses and singing "Candy Kisses Wrapped in Paper" as she did every Christmas.   I felt the years melt away and I was taken back to when I was seven, and the magic was there in the warmth of the day.

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She passed away near Christmas time, and my heartache was much more acute that we would have to mourn her during this special time of the year.  On Christmas Eve, we buried her and as loved ones gathered around her for the last time, I put my hand over my swollen body and grieved that my littlest son, yet unborn, would never meet his great-grandmother and enjoy the magic that she brought  to Christmas.  I believe that in order to pacify my sadness,  I entertained the notion  that God himself -- after watching her minister so fervently to her dear friends and family -- finally proclaimed during Heaven's busy Advent season, "We need her up here at once to assist us!"  And so, during the season she went, and there she is - still serving the angels with unceasing devotion.

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But to those of us here on earth, there was loss amidst the season.

Time passes, another Christmas draws near, and I am in the kitchen preparing for the arrival of guests.  I am caught up in my baking and our home is warm and filled with sounds of laughter.  My husband tells me to sit, but I have so much to do and I am enjoying the love I am sharing with my family and friends. I usher the kids into the kitchen, for they have been asking to bake cookies, and so we do -- cookies topped with candy kisses.  We sing her song, "Candy Kisses Wrapped in Paper" and I tell them stories about their great grandmother and those early Christmas memories.   I feel her presence near, and I am at once amazed at the timelessness of love.

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While we are grieving we cannot fully grasp how deeply one person's life touches and affects ours.  It is only later on, in our thoughts and in our actions, that we come to know how this person's spirit lives inside us.  When a loved one lives in your heart, they are truly alive, for the love you share is the love you learned from them, and they are there in the love.

I smile at my boys then, confident that my youngest will know her - my grandmother -- for a legacy never dies.  Rather, it is passed on from one generation to the next in each act of kindness and with every gesture of devotion.  She is there -- I see her hands in mine as I serve my family;  I hear her voice as I sing her songs; I see through her eyes as I watch my sons open their gifts, their faces shining brightly with the excitement of my youth.  She is here in every act of charity and love that I have learned from her.

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And so, Christmas will always be.

Sharon Cece December 26, 2002 Cleveland Post

(Candy kisses wrapped in paper)

Candy kisses wrapped in paper mean more to you than any of mine
Candy kisses wrapped in paper you'd rather have 'em any old time

You don't mean it when you whisper those sweet love words in my ear
Candy kisses wrapped in paper mean more to you than mine do dear

(Oh candy kisses wrapped in paper mean more to you than any of mine
Candy kisses wrapped in paper)

Once my heart was filled with gladness now there's sadness only tears
Candy kisses wrapped in paper mean more to you than mine do dear
Mean more to you than mine do dear
(Candy kisses)


It's that time of year again. Frost is in the air, the football season is in full gear and thoughts of the holidays from Thanksgiving to New Year are becoming more frequent.

Some years back, it was said that you can expect to gain 5 to 7 pounds during this time of the year.  Since we were expected to anyway, a lot of us figured ~ what the heck ~ gaining a little weight can always be turned into a New Year's Resolution to lose it. This 5 - 10 pounds holiday binge-out projection was changed a few years ago; it was 'trimmed' down to an 'average'  5 pounds weight gain BUT only for folks overweight to begin with.

So ~ here's the new facts for Overweight & Obesity Statistical Fact Sheet;
Adults  ~ Among Americans age 20 and older, 154.7 million are overweight or obese (BMI of 25.0 kg/m2 and higher):  They include:  - 79.9 million men and 74.8 million women.

Of these, 78.4 million are obese (BMI of 30.0 - kg/m2 and higher): ~ 36.8 million men and  41.6 million women.   Is there a good chance anyone reading here is in those stats?

Despite what many people believe, the average adult gains only about  one (1) pound between Thanksgiving and New Year's Day, according to a study from the New England Journal of Medicine. The news isn't all good, however. Other studies have shown that people who are overweight to begin with gain as much as 5 pounds on average this time of year and, in either case, it's tough to lose that holiday weight during the rest of the year.

The thing is that most people will not lose that one or two pounds and will keep it, especially if they are older (ie, anyone out of college).  And those one to two pounds a year may hang on for a lifetime. Many 40 year olds will tell you that they are 10 pounds heavier than they were in high school.  And they are the average weight people.

Bottom line: You may not be able to get into that little dress or those cool jeans on New Year's Eve that you bought during the Thanksgiving sale. Along with weight gain, there is some bloat from all the extra salt on prepared foods and dining out. Even more importantly, with all the emphasis lately on diabetes and obesity, it is sensible to curtail the amount of food you chow down during this holiday season.

So is there anything we can do to avoid extra poundage that wants to make themselves at home on you for life?  Yes, there is.

  •  The first and most obvious to-do is exercise. If you are on a daily exercise program and are a good soldier, chances are you will keep up with your routine. If you are traveling or having a house full of company or eat out more than often, then you may not keep up with it as usual. It's important to move around, especially with all those cookies and goodies around. Try to take a walk for at least 10 minutes in the morning and again in the evening. Walk briskly; pump your arms; it will help keep your metabolism revved up, to work on those extra calories. A 30-minute walk is even better. And stay hydrated - drink water to help clean out your system.
  • The second most obvious to-do is the fact that:  As long as you take in fewer calories than you burn, you'll lose weight. You don't have to eat from every dish on the table or at a party. It is difficult because you want to sample everything, especially home baked goods. Try to choose from protein dishes - chicken, meats, fish, beans. Fill your plate with veggies - go easy on the dip. Forego the bread and butter and pasta dishes. And potatoes. Go easy on the carbs. Try to graze with your first-made plate; wait 20 minutes for your brain to tell you how full your stomach is - and you may not need that second (or third) plate. And as much as we don't want to think about it; yes, alcohol - wine, beer and mixed drinks do have calories in them. The more you drink, the more calories you'll take in.
  •  Dessert can be deadly and you don't need to 'have a taste of everything'.  Someone (skinny, of course)  once told me that "you only need one bite of dessert....that bite tells you what it tastes like and every bite after that is going to taste the same."   Pick something you like (chocolate pudding is my vote here - I make it at home with skim milk) and bring it along as my dessert contribution). I notice all the thin ones go for the pudding instead of the tiramisu.

When I tried a popular diet,  I was allotted 18 points ALL day. You can pick and choose what you eat and you CAN eat a satisfying, nutritious diet within those points. HOWEVER, one serving of tiramisu and one serving of fried calamari = 18 points - and would use up my all-day allotment of food!   I don't eat tiramisu anymore but I love calamari - but like my skinny friend said -- after eating a few, they're all going to taste the same. Now I have a few and not a whole plate. Portion control is KEY.  Even some fruits, in excess, can be fattening.

Another changed rule for dieting:  they used to tell you to weigh yourself only once a week. Now they are saying that you should weigh every day and skinny down your diet if the scale is showing 1 or 2 pounds over your daily normal weight.

If you find that you overeat at one meal, neutralize your daily intake by cutting back at the other meals. A light breakfast of a poached egg on a light English muffin or a lunch of yogurt with fruit; or a cup of soup or a salad can help keep your calories in check. And it's good to cut back and give your system a digestive rest rather than overloading it at each meal.  Use common sense.

If you indulge and enjoy more culinary delights than usual during the holiday season, don't be too hard on yourself.  It is a time of joy, sharing and being with friends and family.  Remember that you can always 'fix it' in January and February;  if you watch out for the pitfalls above, you'll have less weight to lose!

© Marie Coppola Revised November 2016

 

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Trump was not the first choice for many -- but do you REALLY want to  help elect the alternative??

 

You might enjoy hearing from someone who was “inside the room”:

 

This is from Bill Perkins of Compass International.  PLEASE VOTE in November.Not Voting IS a Vote.

 Trump Meets With Evangelical Leaders

 

This was a fascinating day in New York City as over 1000 Christian leaders from all over the U.S. gathered to ask Donald Trump tough specific questions about his policy and intentions should he be elected POTUS.

 

The event organizers originally requested Dallas, Texas as a middle-of-the-nation location to hold a get-some-private-time with Trump event, hoping to attract some 200-300 national Christian leaders. But the only opening on Trump’s schedule was in NYC for 30 minutes, 30 days out. So they took it.

 

A screening committee, scouring the Internet, sent out invitations to about 1000 Christian leaders. Because the high expense of flying into and staying in NYC, and the date less than 30 days away, they reserved a room for only 100 people at the Marriott Marquis in Times Square.

 

Each person who accepted the invitation then had to be vetted, and ultimately ok’ed by the Secret Service. Once cleared, you were notified by phone. I got two sets of phone questions about my work with Compass and when finally approved, had 10 days to make plans.(I’m sure I was at the end of the list!!)

 

But despite receiving the late notices, the response to attend  was off-the-charts. Almost everyone they invited accepted the invitation.

And some who were left off the original list apparently lobbied for inclusion. Ultimately there were over 1000 who hastily changed their schedules to attend.

 

The security was tight for the 7 AM opening for registrants. I stood in long lines for an hour, passing through three check points before finally getting through Secret Service security.

 

Once I finally got to my seat at my table I was astonished to be sitting next to a sharp-as-a tack Auburn grad who is married to another Auburn grad and lives in Vestavia, Alabama where I grew up.

She’s a registered lobbyist who worked for George Bush (W) when she first got out of Auburn. War Eagle to that one!

 

Also at my table was a Congressional candidate from North Carolina, a Christian TV station owner from Florida and the Chairman of the Board of the Washington Times. There were about four past Steeling conference speakers in the room, that I noticed. Probably more I didn’t see.

 

After opening remarks by the conference organizers, Jerry Falwell Jr.  spoke, then Franklin Graham. Both attested to the authenticity of Donald Trump.

 

George Barna, the polling guy, spoke. Using several charts he showed that Trump has a genuine path to victory if Christians vote. But in the last Presidential election, some 40 million evangelicals stayed home and that was literally the difference in the election.

 

Then Ben Carson spoke for about 20 minutes. His easy and soft-spoken style easily warmed the crowd. He referred to the fact that Trump had a bad three weeks, and Clinton had a good three weeks and yet the race is still close, virtually tied. But his main point was that Trump is a proven leader. He’s certainly not a politician who’s always worried about offending someone. And that’s what we need, a leader, not a politician.

 

Next came Huckabee, who moderated the discussion between the crowd and Trump.  Before introducing Trump, he made the point that we’re not voting on a pastor or a Pope, but rather a leader.  A leader who is quite different from the past in order to change things from the status 

quo.

 

So the day was set that this was not about Trump’s Christian knowledge or virtues, but rather where Trump wants to take the country.  And where we’re headed if Trump is not elected.

 

The biggest concern centered around the Supreme Court. The next President will appoint anywhere from one to five members. The Second Amendment, freedom of religion, prayer in public places, etc.will likely be settled by the next President’s appointees.

 

When Donald Trump was introduced, he didn’t speak from the podium but rather sat next to Huckabee on the stage fielding questions from the crowd for about 90 minutes. So much for the 30 minutes originally allotted.

There was no press allowed inside, so it was just Trump and the Christian leaders talking back and forth.

 

The really big Christian leader names got to directly ask Trump questions from the floor— i.e. people like James Dobson, Ralph Reed, Tony Perkins, etc. Most felt religious liberty was at stake with this election, saying that if the policies Obama has set in place are allowed to continue, Christians will eventually have no freedom to worship.  

Harassment of Christian organizations would continue.

 

Through it all, Trump answered each of their questions with solid answers, both acknowledging the problem cited and how he would take care of the problem. He seemed to be genuinely concerned about changing the direction of the nation.

 

He addressed many subjects including the Supreme Court, national defense, border problems, Christian persecution, his pro-life stance, Israel, healthcare, education. and energy.

 

I would say that most of those who attended who were not sure if they would vote for him, left convinced of how much is at stake in this election if Trump is not elected.

 

After Trump left, to a standing ovation, more questions were taken from the audience addressed to a panel of Christian leaders. Things like the weakening of the military, Christian business rights, etc. were discussed at length.

 

I have to say, we pretty much all came away thinking that if Clinton, or any Democrat, is elected, the path this nation is currently on will continue and WILL lead to disaster. If we don’t turn the ship now, we’re headed to be like socialized Europe— religion pushed out of everyday 

life and a financial disaster getting worse by the month.

Even reaching problems like what’s going on in Argentina, where they are currently literally fighting for food, is not out of the realm of possibilities. It’s that bad. Don’t think it can’t happen here.

 

At the end of the day was prayer. With few exceptions, the entire room knelt on the floor in corporate prayer for our nation. I took the opportunity to take a quick picture of that sight, some 1000 people in their Sunday clothes on the ground praying together. Who knows where this will lead. Maybe….

 

So, the bottom line for me is that I love this country and our 

Constitution more than I dislike Trumps antics and ego. He will attempt to change the direction that Godless liberals and their propaganda-media have led this nation.

With Trump we have a chance.  With Clinton we have no chance.

Be thankful we still have a chance and VOTE this fall.

 

 

Please pass this on.  The future of our country in general and our religious liberty in particular depend on every Christian being registered to vote --  AND VOTING.

 

 NOVEMBER 6TH 2016

 

 

 

 

 

 


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From Chicken Soup for the Soul: Shaping the New You

by Fran Signorino

The only reason I would take up jogging is so I could hear heavy breathing again.  ~  Erma Bombeck

When I tell people that I’ve been “doing Richard” for more than 10 years, they look at me funny. My affair with Richard started the way many relationships begin — I was troubled and depressed. My parents had passed away within six months of each other. After that most stressful time, my blood pressure rose from normal to high. My doctor, believing that the condition was temporary, did not feel that I was a candidate for medication. He suggested instead that I exercise — preferably an aerobic exercise — of the low impact variety.

At that time, the last thing I felt like doing was jumping around. But because I am a lover of dance, I purchased a “swing along” with Richard Simmons tape and so began my daily encounters with him.

Richard’s screaming and carrying-on irritated me somewhat on bad days, but his movements and “c’mon, get up — you can do it — I know you can” soon had me infatuated. Hey, you can’t have everything in a relationship. On the plus side, I didn’t have to travel back and forth to a gym; I didn’t have to force myself to get up early to walk. I could meet him on both our terms. And in my own home. I quickly learned his routines as if I were appearing in a Broadway show. He was a steady and driving teacher.

I even got a perm during this period to save me time not fussing with my hair. Alas, it came out a little too curly, and lo and behold, now we looked alike. I had Richard Simmons’ hair. Not by choice, but there he was looking back at me in the mirror.

The exercise outfits I bought brought me closer to his “look.” My kids started calling me “Richard.”

Within a month, my blood pressure stabilized, although my life did not. My daily workout with Richard helped me vent the stresses piling up each day. It was during one of these “workout” hours, intense on my part, that someone called me on the phone. I answered it, breathing heavily. “I can’t talk now, I’m doing Richard.”

“Scandalous,” the caller replied.

Whenever I answered the phone totally out of breath, my callers would say, “I’ll call you back — you’re doing Richard.” My son gave me a new workout tape for my birthday. He said, “New positions for you and Richard.”

So now Richard and I could move while Sweatin’ to the Oldies, and Dance Your Pants Off! while we were Groovin’ in the House.  And we got down with Tonin’ Downtown.  Richard and I went on company trips and vacations together.  I brought Richard to the shore.  He always wore the same clothes.  We still had matching hairdos.  Richard and I have been together longer than some of my past relationships.

I anticipate his every move and we mutually experience heavy breathing and sweating.  This also beats some of my former relationships. Yes, I admit after all these years, I still “do Richard” and I’m now a grandmother.  He’s always there for me, he’s always in a great mood, he always smiles and boy can he make the moves.

And judging from the assortment of tapes in the stores, it’s been as good for him as it’s been for me.

 imagesbhwzg6k1Tidings of Comfort and Joy

When you’re grieving the death of a family member or friend, you may dread the holiday season. Thoughts of social gatherings, family traditions, and obligations leave you anxious and overwhelmed. Your sadness can seem unbearable. You may wish you could skip these next two months and go straight to the routine of the next year—but you can’t. What can you do to lessen your stress and loneliness?

Holidays trigger tough emotions :

You can start by learning what emotions are normal and to be expected when facing the holidays without your loved one. “If you’re feeling overwhelmed as this holiday season approaches, that’s very normal,” advised psychologist Dr. Susan Zonnebelt-Smeenge, whose husband died. “You’re probably wondering how you’re going to handle this and are unsure of what course to take. I want to assure you that you can get through these holidays, and hopefully you can even find moments of joy.”

When you know what to expect, you won’t be rendered helpless as holiday events trigger unexpected emotions. Make a point to spend time talking with people who have experienced a past loss and have already been through a holiday season without their loved one. They can help you have an idea of typical emotions and emotional triggers to expect. These people can also provide much-needed comfort and support.

Creating a holiday plan will help:

Another important step in surviving the holidays is to create a healthy plan for the coming season. “Planning does help you to have a little control, even when you feel totally out of control,” said Dr. Zonnebelt-Smeenge. A healthy plan involves making decisions in advance about traditions, meals, time spent with others, holiday decorating, gift-giving, and commitments.

You will likely not have the energy or the interest in doing as much as you have in past years. Decide ahead of time which invitations you’ll accept, and let the host or family member know that you might leave early. Consider whether your decorating will be different this year: perhaps a smaller tree or simpler ornaments. If you cook or bake, cut back.

Make a list of every holiday tradition you can think of, from music to presents to outings. Then decide which traditions will be too difficult without your deceased loved one, which traditions you’d like to maintain, and what new traditions you can start this year.

Communicating with family and friends:

What’s also helpful in facing the holidays is to communicate your specific concerns and needs with your family and friends. People in grief are often tempted to put on a mask and pretend things are fine, especially over the holidays. “I didn’t want to put on a damper on anyone else’s joy,” shared Mardie. “So I put on a happy face and tried to be the sister, the daughter, the aunt, that everybody wanted to see. Putting on that happy face was a heavier burden than I was emotionally able to carry at the time.”

Your friends may want you to “cheer up” and “have fun,” when that’s the last thing you want. Others will avoid you because they don’t know what to say and don’t want to make you feel worse. Some family members will give you wrong advice in a misguided attempt to help. All of these people likely mean well, but will only end up hurting you if you don’t communicate what you truly need from them.

As difficult as this may be, it’s important to tell people what they can do to help and what they are doing that isn’t helping. And if you don’t have the energy or inclination to talk to people face-to-face, then write your thoughts, concerns, and needs in a letter or email. What’s important is that you are being honest and gracious in your communication.

In describing the first holiday dinner after she was widowed, Dr. Zonnebelt-Smeenge said, “It seemed like no one wanted to talk about my husband. I kept waiting for somebody to bring up [his name]. After a while I couldn’t stand it anymore. I excused myself and left and bawled all the way home. Later I decided maybe they were waiting for me to decide if it was okay to talk about him; maybe they were afraid if they said anything, they’d make me feel worse. From that time on when I went to an event, I found a way to let people know I wanted to talk about him and I wanted to hear their stories.”

So where can you find out what emotions to expect over the holidays, how to create a healthy plan and how to communicate with family and friends these coming weeks?

“Surviving the Holidays” seminar on November 13, 2016:

A GriefShare Surviving the Holidays seminar, to be held November 13, 2016  at Our Lady Star of the Sea Church, 8th Avenue N, North Myrtle Beach, SC from 3:00 PM to 5:00 PM, offers practical, actionable strategies for making it through the holiday season. At this two-hour seminar, you’ll view a video featuring advice from people in grief who’ve faced the holidays after their loss. You’ll hear insights from respected Christian counselors, pastors, and psychologists. You’ll receive a Holiday Survival Guide with practical strategies, encouraging words, helpful exercises, Q/As, and journaling ideas for daily survival through the holiday season.

At GriefShare Surviving the Holidays, you’ll meet with other grieving people who have an understanding of what you’re going through. They won’t judge you or force you to share, but will accept you where you are and will offer comfort and support. “When I went to GriefShare,” said Marion, “I realized there are different ways to grieve."  It is a confidential, compassionate and safe environment.

Your holiday season won’t be easy; your emotions may ambush you and suck you under at times. But you can choose to walk through this season in a way that honors your loved one and puts you on the path of health and healing.

To register or find out more about GriefShare Surviving the Holidays, call Fran @ 843-399-8196.

FOOD FOR THOUGHT

> Think, all of this in less than 8
> years – just think about it!!! Before Obama, there was
> virtually no outlandish presence of Islam in
> America.
>
> • All of a sudden, Islam is
> taught in schools. Christianity and the bible are banned in
> schools.
>
> • All of a sudden we must allow
> prayer rugs everywhere and allow for Islamic prayer in
> schools, airports and businesses.
>
> • All of a sudden we must stop
> serving pork in prisons
>
> • All of a sudden, we are
> inundated with lawsuits by Muslims who are offended by
> American culture.
>
> • All of a sudden we must allow
> burkas to be worn very where even though you have no idea
> who or what is covered up under them.
>
> • All of a sudden Muslims are
> suing employers and refusing to do their jobs if they
> personally deem it conflicts with Sharia Law.
>
> • All of a sudden the Attorney
> General of the United States vows to prosecute anyone who
> engages in “anti-Muslim speech”.
>
> • All of a sudden, Jihadists who
> engage in terrorism and openly admit they acted in the name
> of Islam and ISIS, are emphatically declared they are NOT
> Islamic by our leaders and/or their actions are determined
> NOT to be terrorism, but other nebulous terms like
> ‘workplace violence.”
>
> • All of a sudden, it becomes
> Policy that Secular Middle East dictators that were benign
> or friendly to the West, must be replaced by Islamists and
> the Muslim Brotherhood.
>
> • All of a sudden our troops are
> withdrawn from Iraq and the middle east, giving rise to
> ISIS.
>
> • All of a sudden, America has
> reduced its nuclear stockpiles to 1950 levels, as Obama’s
> stated goal of a nuke-free America by the time he leaves
> office continues uninterrupted.
>
> • All of a sudden, a deal with
> Iran must be made at any cost, with a pathway to nuclear
> weapons and HUNDREDS of BILLIONS of dollars handed over to
> fund their programs.
>
> • All of a sudden America
> APOLOGIZES to Muslim states and sponsors of terror worldwide
> for acts of aggression, war and sabotage THEY perpetrate
> against our soldiers.
>
> • All of a sudden, the American
> Navy is diminished to 1917 Pre-World War I levels of only
> 300 ships. The Army is at pre-1940 levels. The Air Force
> scraps 500 planes and planned to retire the use of the A-10
> Thunderbolt close air support fighter. A further drawdown of
> another 40,000 military personnel is in
> progress.
>
> • All of a sudden half of our
> aircraft carriers are recalled for maintenance by Obama
> rendering the Atlantic unguarded, NONE are in the Middle
> East.
>
> • All of a sudden Obama has to
> empty Guantanamo
>
> Bay of captured Jihadists and let them loose in
> Jihad-friendly Islamic states. He demands to close the
> facility.
>
> • All of a sudden America will
> negotiate with terrorists and trade FIVE Taliban commanders
> for a deserter and Jihad sympathizer.
>
> • All of a sudden there is no
> money for American poor, disabled veterans, jobless
> Americans, hungry Americans, or displaced Americans but
> there is endless money for Obama’s “Syrian refugee”
> resettlement programs.
>
> • All of sudden there is an
> ammunition shortage in the USA.
>
> • All of a sudden, the most
> important thing for Obama to do after a mass shooting by two
> Jihadists, is disarm American Citizens.
>
> • All of a sudden, the President
> of the United States cannot attend the Christian Funerals of
> a Supreme Court Justice and a former First Lady because of
> previous (seemingly unimportant) commitments.
>
> • All of a sudden the President
> of the United States won’t attend the funeral of a
> flag-rank Officer (Gen. Greene) killed in action; he played
> golf. But he sends a big delegation to Michael Brown’s
> funeral. He sends a minor delegation to
> Margaret Thatcher’s funeral. He won’t acknowledge Chris
> Kyle’s murder but he’ll fly the Flag at half-mast for
> Whitney Houston.
>
> • All of a sudden, I’m sick to
> my stomach. I’m not sure the majority of Americans
> recognize the seriousness of the situation and how much
> progress” has been made by Islam these last 7 years, a
> very brief time compared to a 75 year lifetime!
>
>

 

 

 

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Our brand new Saint "Mother" Teresa was on display at Holy Family Church at Hilton Head Island this past Sunday - Always on her knees humbly doing her servitude.... Her sayings on the statute are:

"BABIES ARE LIKE FLOWERS; YOU CAN'T HAVE TOO MANY OF THEM" Mother Teresa

"THE GREATEST EVIL IN THE WORLD IS ABORTION" Mother Teresa

A gift from caring persons associated with Hilton Head.

Thank you for this beautiful message.

Marie Coppola  September 2016

Reports show 42 out of 48 states tested are overrun by this so-called super lice, according to the Journal of Medical Entomology.  In these 42 states, reported by  NBC's Today Show,  100 percent of the lice tested were resistant to over-the-counter treatments. the critter has developed a resistance to commonly used over-the-counter treatments, like Rid and Nix.  The products that are over the .counter have been out for 30 years. Just like germs build up resistance to antibiotics, lice build up resistance to these products just from overuse.

For over-the-counter lice medication, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention recommends taking products like A-200, Pronto, R&C, Rid, Triple X and Licide, all of which contain pyrethrins combined with piperonyl butoxide.

Some things one can do to it lice or nits are found in hair:

Use a lice comb and go through the hair strand by strand to remove all nits.

Have girls wear their hair in a pony tail or braided.  (Now I know the reason all four of us sisters had braided hair in elementary school.)

Use a minty or peppermint spray on the hair every morning

Check your child's hair once a week to catch it early.   {A Compilation of various media sources & Coastal Lice Center).

Kids often transfer lice to each other while playing together, on the athletic field or locker room, or gymnastics class.

The American Academy of Pediatrics issued a report which recommends schools eliminate their “no nit” policy, which required a child be free of nits before they can return to school. Under their recommendation, if a child has head lice, they should finish the school day, get treatment and return to school.l00

It should be understood that acquiring head lice is not a result of poor hygiene. The reality however, is that lice are human parasites that require human blood to survive and are transferred from head to head.

The lice eggs, or “nits,”themselves are not contagious, but it’s the adult active lice that are. Once the eggs are laid— on the hair shaft, close to the scalp— they have 7 to 10 days until they hatch. If they’re not removed before they hatch, baby lice or nymphs become adult lice within 1 to 2 weeks and leave the eggshell behind.

Although you can see the eggs, it’s unlikely that you’ll be able to see the live lice unless there’s a severe infestation. The eggs are clear or white and unlike dandruff, you won’t be able to pull it off with your fingers.

Additionally, although many children will scratch the back of their heads or around their ears, many show no signs of lice because they’re not allergic to the lice saliva which causes itchiness

If you can find lice early, it’s much easier to get rid of them quickly and prevent it from turning into a large infestation, check your child’s scalp at bath time or when brushing her hair with a special nit comb. Also, ask your child’s school to notify you if there are reported cases of head lice.

If you choose to treat your child at home, you must remove both the lice and the eggs.  Although there are over-the-counter products and prescription medications available, there is not one product on the market that has 100 percent ovicidal effects on the eggs, meaning it will kill all the eggs.

You’ll need a nit comb with microgrooves that can wrap around the hair strands and drag everything off. You also have to comb the hair strand by strand for two weeks to make sure all of the nits are completely gone.

There are however, nearby professional centers that offer natural, effective treatments and do all of the hard work for you.

Head lice can survive off the scalp for up to two days. Don't go into a cleaning frenzy, but you may vacuum carpets, couches and car seats. Since lice don’t burrow like bed bugs, you can put a sheet on your couch for 24 hours to create a barrier.

Extreme heat and cold temperatures kill lice, so throw pillows, blankets, stuffed animals and hats in the dryer for 30 minutes in high heat. Wash and boil hairbrushes, combs and hair clips and put helmets in a bag and leave it in the freezer for several hours.

Although there is a stigma attached to head lice and many parents and kids are embarrassed to admit they have it, it’s important to tell other parents to keep it from spreading.  The problem, according to the Today show, is that lice have mutated, making it more difficult for the chemicals in over-the-counter treatments to lock on to the lice and eliminate it.  It is more likely resistance lice than not.  Try to get rid of the infection by using over-the-counter treatment twice.  {A Compilation of various media sources & Coastal Lice Center).

Marie Coppola  August 2016   {Ref: A Compilation of various media sources & Coastal Lice Center).