Life in General

Miscellaneous observtions on Life


Our demographics show that many folks retire to our southern states and South Carolina is not an exception.  Seniors can bring a wealth of ideas and  experience, as well as  time and efforts helping a community.   Our wonderful world has changed quite a bit this past year.  Since early  this year, the south and the entire world  has been invaded with a virus that has changed our lives and everyone in it.   Most of us know someone who has been affected by the virus, and many lives have ended.   We hope to be on the 'ending' part of this pandemic  tragedy with vaccines being available soon.

One thing retiring seniors have in common in their future: one of them may lose their life-long partner.  It is a joy to share our golden years with someone we have been together with for decades.   Suddenly being without them, the survivor may not function as he/she did at their pre-loss capacity.

But steps can be taken to ensure one's life doesn't fall apart while he or she are in the midst of it. "This, too, shall pass".

Grief is a complex situation.   When you are in the throes of it, one may find it difficult to do almost anything else.   Many people just want the pain to end but are convinced it never will.   Reaching out to others and accepting support is often difficult when you are hurting so much.  It's best to seek those persons who will 'walk with", not "in front of" or 'behind" you in your journey with grief.

There is a free grief program called Grief Share where the members will walk 'with you'.   We have many such groups in our local area especially at our many churches.  There are over 12,000 such programs all over the world and you can find one near you;  online your computer  at

Add your zip code and you will find these healing programs that are mostly held in our church communities.   They are offered free to the whole community and are Biblically-based concepts  to cope with grief ; they are non-denominational.  Grief Share addresses the loss of spouses, children, family members and close friends.  All faiths  and non-faith persons are welcome.

Today, some of these programs have been interrupted by the virus, but once the virus subsides, they will be up and running again - you can find out which ones are still out there (computer streaming) by going to their website at   --  there are phone numbers and locations locally as well as uplifting healing articles - you won't feel alone.

The program normally consists of 13 sessions [one day a week for 13 weeks - usually in the afternoon].  Each session consists of a video seminar featuring  grief recovery experts.   A small support group discussion follows.  There is a workbook journal & exercises for each session.  Workbooks cost $15 - the only cost to you if you want one and you don't have to purchase it.  The workbook is helpful to see how you are progressing.

The atmosphere is friendly and supportive.   It is a 'safe environment' where confidentiality is affirmed and friendship bonds are formed.

Often,  friends and family want to help you but don't know how.  That's the reason Grief Share was formed.   The groups are led by caring people/facilitators who have experienced grief and have successfully rebuilt their lives.    We understand how you feel because we've been in the same place.  We will walk with you on the path of grief toward healing and hope for the future.   Our groups in SC are part of a network of 12,000+ churches worldwide that offer Grief Share support issues.   Both men and women join us; it is not a social program but friends have been made.   Sometimes we have all male and all female support groups.  It's your choice.  If you travel while in a program, there may be other Grief Share sites that you can 'make up' what you lost - other churches times & dates are available on the website also.

Many new bonds and friendships are formed at the meeting; healing results from shared experiences and ways to cope with one's loss.   We hope to have safe meetings sometime in the coming spring.

At these meetings, you will have begun the process.  And the only way forward is to put one step in front of the other.   Grief Share helps to do that.   This newspaper and church notices/bulletins will announce when these sessions will take place.   The Grief Share website  lists the dates & times & where & phone numbers.

We look forward to meeting you; God's blessings & peace be with you.   Even if you are not ready yet for the meetings, check out the many uplifting articles in the website.   Hope to see you in the future!

Marie Coppola    December 2020









In the past few days, the words Global Leadership has popped up - especially when it is mentioned that Joe Biden may be our next president.   So, what IS global leadership?

Global leadership is defined as leading people who are based in multiple regions of the world. They need to engage very diverse and distributed groups of stakeholders and colleagues to get things done.

 Global leaders need to lead people across 5 additional barriers – distance, cultures, time zones, communicating  through technology and navigating complex organization structures such as the matrix or network organization.

We have been involved lately with other countries because of the pandemic that originated in China.  Many people died.  Still are.  To this date, I have not seen or read that China is sorry about this tragedy and have tried unsuccessfully  to put blame on America.  Our Sitting President put a ban on travel as Chinese people were traveling all over and he helped keep those statistics down.  This is hardly global leadership.  He did most of this himself but was followed by other Americans.   Much of our history has shown that America has provided monetary assistance to many European & Asian countries; much of which was not returned.  And then expected; It became assumed that we would help.  When the President wanted other countries to assist, it did not happen.  So he stopped.  Will global leaderships do this?  They never did before.  America is divided, its citizens can't agree on many issues; add countries who are not too friendly with us - who will be in charge?

We have had good leadership from the Sitting president, who brought about many changes in our stock market, jobs, and positive reinforcements to America and our military.  He was in his first half year of presidency when the opposite political party started impeachment against him.  This continued for the next three years.   It didn't impede him; he had many positive reinforcements for America - for all.   Would global leadership have helped this?   I think not.  They are having problems with their own countries - when would our president have time & energy to stop the violence that has grown in our country from militant terrorists - someone has invited them in but not our sitting president.

America is a beautiful country.  Everyone wants to come live here.   Joe Biden wants to let all immigrants come in.  The wall that our Sitting president promised is well on its way but is now said it will be  brought down by Joe Biden.  Who will keep out visitors who have done and will do terrorist crimes? Sometimes, they are arrested and then let out or deported but sometimes they disappear in the USA and never found.  That means we will not have borders and anyone can come into our country.  It is said that 70,000 are on their way as I write this.   How can global leadership handle that?  Many foreign countries themselves expel persons, operate detention camps and then there's always Iran & Russia.  Some countries execute Christians.  Will they go along with our suggestions?  Is there a Santa Clause?  What about all the violence that went on here in the USA during these past months?  By a political party who spouted hate, insults and unbecoming language to the Sitting president.  Will global leadership teach them to not do that?

I note the remarks made in Mr. Hamilton's last article - he is also a Democrat - that during the pandemic we had a "major failure of government." That was not so - Donald Trump did everything possible.  He even wanted to stop the vicious wars, looting and killings at different cities which, by the way, were all Democrats - same as Joe Biden. Trump wanted to stop it with troops but all Democratic governors said no.  Maybe THEY should go global and learn about getting along with people.  Donald Trump had no misinformation as stated in his article.  He did his best, but with the fake media & unwilling political party who rips up his words, we can only pray for our country that God leads us into 2021.  I pray for all living in SC and in the world that peace, love & unity is found in the New Year.  God bless America.










The word "Longanimity" jumped out at me one morning as we were watching an EWTN streaming mass & saying the rosary on TV.  The homily said longanimity was one of the Spirits of the Holy Spirit.

Your computer can find out things very quickly so I looked it up. The word was new to me and it translated  as “long-suffering" and longanimitas is a virtue similar to patience.  St. Thomas Aquinas’s careful distinction between these two virtues reveals some precious pearls of wisdom.  In Longanimity vs Patience, in his Summa theologiae, St. Thomas holds that longanimity and patience both deal with enduring difficulties for the sake of a good.  But patience focuses on the difficulties, whereas longanimity focuses on the good. Patience steels the soul, helping a person bear hardships serenely—like a parent calmly teaching teens over and over again. Meanwhile longanimity leads the soul towards a good for which we yearn, specifically for the spiritual growth that flows from delving more deeply into the mystery of  Christ. Thankfully, even the hardship of waiting itself can contribute to our spiritual life!   And, haven't we waited!

So longanimity is a virtue for those who wait: it entails steadfastness in hopefully awaiting a long-delayed good.

Oddly, after differentiating the virtues, St. Thomas draws them together again: the exercise of longanimity will always require patience too, he says, because “the very delay of the good we hope for is of a nature to cause sorrow.” He quotes Proverbs 13:12: “Hope deferred makes the heart sick.” Longanimity is waiting in hope, but it also requires patience to fortify the soul against the difficulty of waiting itself.

God knows the human heart and recognizes that a long delay in attaining our deepest desires is a genuine cause of sorrow, silent and unobserved though it may be. We all have unanswered prayers: some of us wait in hope for a spouse, others for children, others for entrance to religious life, others for a diagnosis or a cure for the virus, others to secure a job, others to pay a debt, others to find the right home. In the midst of uncertainty, we can pray for the virtue of longanimity to strengthen our souls and guard us against despair. Second, longanimity points us beyond ourselves to God. The greatest good we all yearn for is union with God, and Christian hope is founded on the promise that He will fulfill this desire.

The Christian life, then, is a matter of waiting for God. As the ten bridesmaids of St. Matthew’s Gospel demonstrate, the proper attitude of the Christian is one of watching and waiting in hope, lamps filled with oil (Matt. 25:1-13).   Fruit of Longanimity: Extraordinary patience under provocation or trial. Also called long suffering. It is one of the fruits of the Holy Spirit. It includes forbearance, which adds to long suffering the implication of restraint in expressing one’s feelings or in demanding punishment or one’s due. Longanimity suggests toleration, moved by love and the desire for peace, of something painful that deserves to be rejected or opposed. (Fr. John Hardon, Modern Catholic Dictionary)

The 12 fruits are charity (or love), joy, peace, patience, benignity (or kindness), goodness, longanimity (or long-suffering), mildness (or gentleness), faith, modesty, continency (or self-control), and chastity. (Longanimity, modesty, and chastity are the three fruits found only in the longer version of the text.)

Longanimity originated in the early to mid-1400s, derived from the Late Latin longanimis, which means patient.  The Latin longus, means long, and animus, means soul.  With roots in Catholicism, it serves as one of the twelve fruits of the Holy Spirit.  According to Catholic belief, these "fruits" are virtues that can only be performed by an individual with the help of the Holy Spirit.


Marie Coppola  December 2020















Up to 500 million people – about one-third of the world’s population – became infected with the 1918 Pandemic virus, according to the Centers for  Disease Control & Protection.   As many as 50 million died, or one out of every 30 human beings on the planet.  The virus killed more American troops than died on World War I battlefields.

The intensity and speed with which the flu struck were almost unimaginable. It was the worst global pandemic in modern history.

"Influenza viruses, with the vast silent reservoir in aquatic birds, are impossible to eradicate," the World Health Organization warned.  "With the growth of global travel, a pandemic can spread rapidly globally with little time to prepare a public health response."

If an equal ratio of Americans died in a pandemic today, that would be 2 million Americans. That's the current population of the entire Las Vegas metropolitan area.

Pandemics ignore national borders, social class, economic status and even age.  The pandemic killed more people in 24 months than AIDS killed in 24 years, more in a year than the Black Death killed in a century, according to the book "The Great Influenza."  The dead included about 675,000 people in the United States. In just October alone, the worst single month in the U.S., an unthinkable 100,000 Americans died. Many were young adults in the prime of their life.    The World Health Organization said the 1918 influenza pandemic was known colloquially as “Spanish flu,” although there was nothing “Spanish” about the epidemic. 

What can we do to get through these next months with Covid-19?  We can give thanks.  Wikipedia defines  'thanks' as gratitude, appreciation or thankfulness which is a positive emotion in acknowledgment or that one has received or will.  It's hard to give thanks or feel gratitude when we have to wear masks, distance ourselves or feel gratitude if we have lost a loved one to this event.   It's hard to give thanks or feel gratitude when the economy is poor; there are wars & rumors of war, heated disagreements over how the government should be run; foreclosures; and even personal problems caused by these events.   It is disheartening that there are mega problems that surround us today.  A hopeless feeling might come over some of us.  Have you thought of giving thanks for anything recently?  Is there anything that you are thankful for?  God talks to us via the Bible and tells us:"Be joyful always; pray continually; give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus." 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18.

"Enter his gates with thanksgiving and his courts with praise; give thanks to him and praise his name." Psalms 100:4   The Lord tells us in Psalm 32:8 - "I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will counsel you and watch over you."

God wants us to be happy. His Word in Scripture reflects this. He instructs us in His Ways in the Bible and His instructions pave the way to happiness, peace and prosperity. How do we know that God wants us to be happy? He tells us in Proverbs 17:22:

"A happy heart is good medicine and a cheerful mind works healing, but a broken spirit dries up the bones."

One of the ways you can get happier and over the disillusionment of life’s events is to start praising God and thanking Him. There are uncountable things we can thank him for and show true gratitude for. They can be little things; in fact, it’s the little things that change your heart from downtrodden to a cheerful heart. I thank God for opening my eyes to see every morning and being able to get out of bed. I thank Him for the capability to drive, work, exercise, read, share love with my mate, family and/or friends and for every meal I partake. These are all gifts and blessings from God. Not everyone has them.   You may have different ones - think about them.  We all have so many blessings we take for granted.   We have  many avenues we can use to fight it.   There are vaccines coming available.

I give thanks to Him and Praise Him. ‘All good things come from God’. They don’t have have to be lottery wins, or windfalls or extraordinary happenings. The more I praise Him and thank Him, the more cheerful I become. The negative things in my life become less prominent. Two matters cannot occupy the same space. My praises highlight the thankfulness; my thankfulness highlights the good and negates the bad; my gratitude is mind-changing.

Become aware of all the good things in your life. Start praising God for all the good things; give Him genuine gratitude. And you will find that you will achieve a happy heart and a cheerful mind. And when you become uplifted, don’t forget to thank Him and praise Him for that, too!

Marie Coppola updated October 13, 2020

I offered this writing of an Evangelical Meeting four years ago before the 2016 election.  Some of it hasn't changed since then;  you might enjoy hearing from someone who was “inside the room", Bill Perkins of Compass International.  Bill wrote about 1000 Christian leaders from all over the USA to ask Donald Trump tough specific questions about his policy & intentions should he be elected POTUS. 

 This was a fascinating day in New York City as over 1000 Christian leaders from all over the U.S. gathered to ask Donald Trump tough specific questions about his policy and intentions should he be elected POTUS. The only opening on Trump’s schedule was in NYC for 30 minutes.  Invitations were sent out to about 1000 Christian leaders. 


Each person who accepted the invitation then had to be vetted, and ultimately ok’ed by the Secret Service. Once cleared, you were notified by phone.  Despite receiving the late notices, the response to attend was off-the-charts. Almost everyone they invited accepted the invitation.  Ultimately there were over 1000 who hastily changed their schedules to attend.


After opening remarks by the conference organizers, Jerry Falwell Jr.  spoke, then Franklin Graham. Both attested to the authenticity of Donald Trump.


George Barna, the polling guy, spoke. Using several charts he showed that Trump has a genuine path to victory if Christians vote. But in the last Presidential election, some 40 million evangelicals stayed home and that was literally the difference in the election.


Then Ben Carson spoke for about 20 minutes. His easy and soft-spoken style easily warmed the crowd. He referred to the fact that Trump had a bad three weeks, and Clinton had a good three weeks and yet the race is still close, virtually tied. But his main point was that Trump is a proven leader. He’s certainly not a politician who’s always worried about offending someone. And that’s what we need, a leader, not a politician.


Next came Huckabee, who moderated the discussion between the crowd and Trump.  Before introducing Trump, he made the point that we’re not voting on a pastor or a Pope, but rather a leader.  A leader who is quite different from the past in order to change things from the status 



So the day was set that this was not about Trump’s Christian knowledge or virtues, but rather where Trump wants to take the country.  And where we’re headed if Trump is not elected.


The biggest concern centered around the Supreme Court. The next President will appoint anywhere from one to five members. The Second Amendment, freedom of religion, prayer in public places, etc.will likely be settled by the next President’s appointees.


When Donald Trump was introduced, he didn’t speak from the podium but rather sat next to Huckabee on the stage fielding questions from the crowd for about 90 minutes. So much for the 30 minutes originally allotted.  There was no press allowed inside, so it was just Trump and the Christian leaders talking back and forth.


The really big Christian leader names got to directly ask Trump questions from the floor— i.e. people like James Dobson, Ralph Reed, Tony Perkins, etc. Most felt religious liberty was at stake with this election, saying that if the policies Obama has set in place are allowed to continue, Christians will eventually have no freedom to worship.  Harassment of Christian organizations would continue.


Through it all, Trump answered each of their questions with solid answers, both acknowledging the problem cited and how he would take care of the problem. He seemed to be genuinely concerned about changing the direction of the nation.


He addressed many subjects including the Supreme Court, national defense, border problems, Christian persecution, his pro-life stance, Israel, healthcare, education. and energy.


I would say that most of those who attended who were not sure if they would vote for him, left convinced of how much is at stake in this election if Trump is not elected.


After Trump left, to a standing ovation, more questions were taken from the audience addressed to a panel of Christian leaders. Things like the weakening of the military, Christian business rights, etc. were discussed at length.


I have to say, we pretty much all came away thinking that if Clinton, or any Democrat, is elected, the path this nation is currently on will continue and WILL lead to disaster. If we don’t turn the ship now, we’re headed to be like socialized Europe— religion pushed out of everyday life and a financial disaster getting worse by the month. 


Even reaching problems like what’s going on in Argentina, where they are currently literally fighting for food, is not out of the realm of possibilities. It’s that bad. Don’t think it can’t happen here.


At the end of the day was prayer. With few exceptions, the entire room knelt on the floor in corporate prayer for our nation. I took the opportunity to take a quick picture of that sight, some 1000 people in their Sunday clothes on the ground praying together. Who knows where this will lead. Maybe….


So, the bottom line for me is that I love this country and our 

Constitution more than I dislike Trumps antics and ego. He will attempt to change the direction that Godless liberals and their propaganda-media have led this nation.

With Trump we have a chance.  With Biden we have no chance.

Be thankful we still have a chance and VOTE this fall.


The future of our country in general and our religious liberty in particular depend on every Christian being registered to vote --  AND VOTING  

Thanks to  Bill Perkins of Compass International 


We aren't a nation adrift. We are a nation divided.

I read Mr. Lee H. Hamilton's articles of August 27 and September 3rd and would like to comment on them. Mr. Lawrence is a long-serviced, awarded Democrat from Indiana and served 1964 to 1999. Thank you for your service. You must have seen a lot of changes in the government and I am commenting on some of your statements below:

LHH - "I’ve lost track of the times over the years I’ve heard a politician say, 'This is the most important election of my lifetime.' In fact, I’ve said it myself. And I’m sure we all believed it at the time. But in my case, at least, I know I was wrong in the past. Because this year’s election is the most important of my lifetime."

MC - I concur.  This election will either bring us together or separate us as we have never before been separated.  We can remain a Constitutional democracy or become a socialistic country which as we have seen in history never works - for the people.

LHH - "Americans’ trust in the election process is at best unsettled. Many are worried about foreign meddling of the venerable absentee ballot, and who talks constantly about “corrupt” elections. or otherwise compromised”.

MC - I agree with corrupt or compromised  - I have friends who worked at elections and are aware that 'major mistakes' can and do happen.  They happened in past elections and setbacks have already materialized in some states.

The Democratic party under Nancy and Chuck, et al, wasted three and a half years of Trump's presidency by impeachment proceedings and so began the division of our country .The same time waste happened at the Justice's hearings.  As Chairman of House Foreign Affairs Committee from 1993 to 1995 you must have been aware of some of these allegations.

LHH - This is actually one of the remarkable things about the American political system — the degree to which Americans over the centuries have placed their faith in election results, win or lose.

MC - This wasn't true in the last election. Hillary Clinton's defeat is still reverberating through the Democratic party who still lament the outcome.   Our president and his many accomplishments and his timeless energy are appreciated by everyone except the progressive, liberal government folks. This has caused division by progressive liberals aligning themselves with the media - who chant the same opinionated lies from channel to channel. They are blatant and speak against him.  Americans are tired of this destructive bad attitude and many Democrats agree with this. We need to give the Sitting President - whomever they may be - a man or a woman - respect & manners. He's given us many pluses - more than most who have been in office - and he needs Dems to work with him and not against him.

LHH - "Now, it’s not uncommon to hear charges of voter fraud, but study after study has found that actual voter fraud in the US is rare. It’s possible in a city or town, but if you think about how our national elections are run — in 50 states, each with its own rules, and each locality controlling the electoral process — it’s hard to see how fraud could take place on any sizable scale."

MC - I, personally, have received numerous emails from a Progressive Democratic group saying that my post office has been shut down by Donald Trump and if I give $$ to the Democratic party, they would reinstate it. Our post office is intact and working. What do they do with the money? I have asked many times to take my name off their list - only our Lord knows where they got my (and others') addresses.  I did report this to the post office administrator.

It has been said that whichever 'side' wins in this coming election, there will be "war in the streets". This is added to the fears from gossip and lies that Trump is not a good leader in the virus pandemic - he gives updates consistently and tries to give us faith and not fear in what is happening. It is the media, reporters & fake news that has caused much of the disruptions that are taking place in our wonderful country - and so-called 'peaceful protesters' rioting, looting, taking down statues, burning life-long businesses, killing seniors and children blatantly - happening in Democratic-states - why? It doesn't change anything they are against - why do they want the police defunded? Trump didn't do this - he offers aid but is turned down by state officials, The Dems can bring up that he doesn't wear a mask but they never talk about our past history and cities being destroyed - why not? This is what the media tells us daily - death, lock-downs, riots, murders, and virus statistics which have been found and verified as incorrect. Trump aims to keep up spirits and lessen fears.

We need to bring our country together - not apart. We are a capitalistic democracy - we do not want a socialistic or communistic government.  We don't want to be added to the infanticide list.  Many of us worked long hours & sacrificed to buy a house in the suburbs - we don't want them taken away to replace them with high rise buildings which can promote damage & harm from rioters/protesters.  A socialist government will take away our freedom of life and speech.

Influenza pandemics occur very rarely; there have been four pandemics in the past 100 years.

The phrase "New Normal" is a phrase that is used in many psychological, life transformations or any situation that changes the old way you did things to the new ways - hence 'the new normal'.   In our church ministry, it is used in grief situations after the loss of a mate or loved one - and the mourner is advised to seek a 'new normal' environment to adjust to their loss.  It is a successful tool. 

Here we are in the 3rd month of trying to find a 'new normal' during this first for us - a pandemic.  Praise God that Influenza pandemics occur very rarely; there have been four pandemics in the past 100 years. 

Sometimes the 'new normal' of the one we are experiencing now feels like it's been here for 100 years.  Has life changed?  Has anyone's life not changed from the Guidelines we are given?   

We have masks, gloves and Clorox wipes in plastic bags in our cars & pocketbooks.  We avoid contact if we are to be in the company of others, especially if one happens to sneeze.   [Don't wipe your nose with the Clorox wipe.]   Churches were shut down and now open - there are brave ones who sit a pew apart and pray that no one coughs or sneezes.   There are televised church sessions that many attend.   The fear of actually acquiring this or Influenza pandemics occur rarely; and hence the yearnings for Old Normal arise.   Like haircuts and doctor visits.  And going where you want with whom and how many.  And so many more. 

If someone wants to drop something off, you kinda detective question where the person was - how old they are - and do they mask & glove?  How are they feeling?   Can I leave it on the doorstep - they can ring the bell?   How's everyone in the family - oh the kids just got home from Disney?  Well, we aren't available that day.

The younger generation thinks it's all over, what's the big deal about getting the flu & aren't you over-reaching your safety?   The senior generation stays 'put' and goes out only for emergencies such as eating - and they cross-examine anyone who enters their home.   I am not making fun - because I am in that senior category.   So much so, that I convinced my husband that he is capable of 'cutting my hair' which was growing down my back.  He did it very well and now he is my hairdresser.   Well, for a little while anyway.  The salons are re-opening.  So are other businesses.   It is so great to see neighborhood kids riding their bikes and waving again.  Life goes on.   

If you know me, you know that I am a hugger.  Alas. hugging is not in the New Normal.  I get it about the new handshake - It just isn't the same offering my elbow to their elbow.   It rejects the 6 foot distancing as hugging does.   There was a news item showing two women hugging who had on plastic shower curtains.  Imagine if this becomes a New Normal?   We would have to Clorox down the shower curtains many times.  And one size will fit all?   Now I fully understand what "The Good Old Days" means.   Please come back!


Marie Coppola  May 2020










Without much warning, we are encased in a situation that may cause disorder or death.   If we follow the critical guidelines handed down from our government administration to contain the situation, we may,  therefore - have less fatal consequences.

COVID-19 is disease caused by a coronavirus, a common virus that can cause what doctors call a respiratory tract infection. It can affect your upper respiratory tract (sinuses, nose, and throat) or lower respiratory tract (windpipe and lungs). Most coronaviruses aren’t dangerous.

In early 2020, following a December 2019 outbreak in China, the World Health Organization identified a new type of coronavirus. Officials named this new virus severe acute respiratory syndrome coronavirus 2 (SARS-CoV-2). This is the virus that causes COVID-19.

Droplets from coughing and sneezing and close human contact likely transmit the coronavirus. The respiratory droplets are probably absorbed into the body through the mucous membranes of the mouth, nose, and eyes. The virus is likely to remain active in the environment for several days.   How can it be transmitted?

This could be through:  Hugging and kissing
Sharing utensils for eating and drinking
Speaking to someone within a distance of 3 feet
Touching someone directly

A person with the virus can spread the infection by leaving respiratory droplets on objects, such as door handles, doorbells, and telephones. These are then picked up by someone else.

In our North Myrtle Beach area, there are many seniors who have always lived here and those that have retired here.   According to Prevention Magazine the majority of deaths from coronavirus have been in the elderly.   Dr. Adalja says. “Above age 50 is when you start to see more severe complications,” he explains, adding that older patients have a harder time recovering, similar to  the flu.  Common flu complications in high-risk groups include bronchitis and pneumonia, which have also been reported in patients with COVID-19.

During the initial outbreak of coronavirus-related deaths in Washington state, a majority of patients were residents of a nursing facility and over the age of 70.  People with underlying health conditions

How are younger adults dealing with COVID-19?
People in their 20s, 30s, and 40s seem to have a lower risk of novel coronavirus complications, Dr. Adalja says. “It’s very unlikely for young people to have severe cases,” but that doesn’t mean it can’t happen, Dr. Adalja says, especially if you have direct or frequent contact with the disease or an underlying condition.   What about the COVID-19 risk in children?   Unlike other respiratory viruses like the flu, COVID-19 has not been severely impacting children in the United States, Dr. Adalja says. “It’s not that it’s impossible,” he explains, “but we haven’t seen it yet.”

With all these factors, much rhetoric is heard in the media about our country becoming under a dictatorial government trying to over- control  our lives  OR praising the government for the steps they are taking to protect us.   Arguing and pointing fingers at each other will not stop this virus.   It is time we came together and fight  this health hazard together.

It could get worse - it has in Italy.   We have friends there and it is a complete shutdown.  They don't have medical facilities as we do.  The people in the country can go outdoors, but the people who live in the village where homes are connected together, cannot leave their homes unless they obtain a permit from the government to do so.  They cannot go to piazza uptown to gather with friends.   The solitude is quite evident.   I found a video of their quiet streets with no one outside but then some Italians came out on their balconies and sang some beautiful tenor songs to break the silence.  It was emotional to see and hear them.   But they are making the best of what they have.  It is improving.

We need to do the same.  We need to follow the guidelines that are set forth - and not complain and bellyache that we can't do what we want to do.   It is for our best and especially for the seniors among us.  Lots of them.  Italy's death rate is high due to their high senior age population.

We started earlier with guidelines and hope to save lives with them.  Common sense, following the guidelines and praying can do a lot - for you and the grandmas & grandpas in your life.

Marie Coppola  March 2020






It's interesting that seniors can't immediately remember everyone's name or face at times, but have no problems drifting back through years of memories in detail.

I vividly remember that at age 4, my parents (probably needing a break from their parenting  of 5 children) signed me up for kindergarten earlier than the final registration date they should have.  I was off by 8 months (too young by public school age standards).   As a result, I spent 2 years in kindergarten.  This was good and bad.   Bad because the kids never let me forget it up to 6th grade until we went to junior high.  They said things like "You stayed back in kindergarten."  But, it was good because I had kindergarten (K) nailed down in my 2nd year and knew all the procedures and was 'picked' daily by Mrs. Hayes, our beloved teacher to 'help' her in lessons and activities.  Everyone thought I was her "pet" but I just knew the program.

One of the 'chores' Mrs. Hayes gave to me was to sing  solo - "Silent Night" at the Family Christmas Party.  I didn't know the words and my 4 years older sister spent much time teaching them to me.   She did a good job and I wish she could have taught me how to carry a tune, but knowing the words were enough.   My mother was especially thrilled at this and bought me a pink linen lace-trimmed dress and new patent leather shoes AND a golden heart locket (for good luck). father came to the Christmas party!  He was a hard-working man for his family of 7 and he rarely missed work.

I wasn't overly nervous about doing this; my sister taught me well and I remembered we did the same program the Christmas before.  Just with different kids.    I remember I was a little worried because I felt a cold coming on --my annual colds were usually around Thanksgiving or Christmas complete with the runny nose, the stuffed up feeling and worst of all -- The Cough.

Sure enough, I did break out in my annual cold the day before the program.   I practiced singing the song in between coughs (I held my breath longer to control it).   I told my sister I was afraid I would cough and she said "No, you won't" - and I believed everything she told me -- still do.

I sang the song well - took the holding breaths in between - didn't cough once and saw my Mom & Dad clapping with smiles.

The topper of that day was that Mrs. Hayes told me the day before the program that right after I sang, the next act -- the 'K band' -- consisting of tambourines, piano and triangle  played by members of the K class  would play Jingle Bells - each of them would do a "solo" when pointed to.   Mrs, Hayes put me right next to her piano and when she whispered the instrument I was to conduct them and wave the baton and just point to them as she whispered.    One can't lose doing this bandleader act.   My mother was astounded - she hugged me afterwards and said, "I didn't know you would lead the band!"   (A puppy could learn to do this.)

When I think of this at my age now, I am so grateful that I lived at a time when a public school of all different races & religions sang Silent Night together for a Christmas play.  Would that happen today before someone got offended by it?    I won't go into what the kindergarten kids are being taught today - things way before their time that are not necessary and/or should be taught by their parents.

I'm happy with my memory of that day and pray that our children and grandchildren grow up with similar memories.

Marie Coppola © December 2019